What to Do?
Rose came over tonight for a second visit this week. She took Dad out to get groceries and presumably dinner. They got back awfully early, without dinner. When I asked Rose she commented, “He fell but he doesn’t want you to know.” Why on earth not, I feel so bad.
Rose said that he thinks ‘we’ don’t want him going out. That wasn’t me, it was the doctor. When he comes in, I drop hints all over the place that I really like to see him go out. Go out more….
Its so sad that he thinks I want to keep him in. What would you do? How would you get the message across.
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Margo Arrowsmith
Occasionally, when I leave in the morning, Dad is still sleeping He’s 92 and I lean in, touch his chest to see if he is still breathing. I remind myself of the anxious new mother who used to do the same thing 38 years ago with her sleeping daughter. He may have done the same with me. The guard has changed.
I am a Baby Boomer, from the early years, born just 3 years after the war. We Baby Boomers have been lauded and blamed. We fought a war and fought against that war. We thought we were changing the world, and in many ways we did.
We are now taking care of our parents.
I am taking care of my Dad. Until very recently, while he lived with me, he took care of himself AND my mother, who died four years ago. Now, and it seems suddenly to me, he cannot do it any more. So suddenly I am the captain of the team. I am lucky to have the team, I know that many of you are doing it alone. There are those of you better off than me, many who have fewer resources than I do.
But we all need to know more about resources. We all need more ideas. We all need to vent sometimes. We need a community of people who get it. This is what “Changing the Guard” is all about.
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